You must attempt to accept the existence of something you feel more inclined to resent. That's your first (and really, your only) big hurdle. You may be surprised by how easy it is to overcome this. It is not, after all, as if you can turn back the clock or make something vanish by wishing. You will soon find that you adjust to a reality. A little light bulb of inspiration will switch itself on. Then you'll see a new way to win a battle that you thought was lost.