People are not universally kind and caring. They don't all behave in altruistic ways. Not all their thoughts are pure and perfect. Some harbor grudges and nurse resentments. Is that then all the evidence we need to dismiss the whole human race as a sorry species? Well, there is another way to look at this. Even within the angriest individuals, there are gloriously redeeming features and saving graces. And all you now need, in order to bring forgiveness and healing to a tense situation, is to identify just one of these.When people feel inspired, their eyes light up and their faces brighten. They begin to radiate an attractive aura. They start to look, talk and act like the kind of people that other people would love to spend more time with. And when they feel low, the same process happens in reverse. That's why it is so important to be careful about the emotional impulses that we follow and the ones that we should strive to keep at bay. Consider the most heart-warming factor in your life right now. It is the only consideration you need to make.

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