Some people get along splendidly. Other relationships are somewhat more strained. Most of us naturally shy away from the idea of striving to improve those more unsatisfactory lines of communication. It is so much easier just to enjoy the company of our friends and to be dismissive of the folk who don't seem to be so friendly towards us. But if you now really want to fix a problem, heal a wound and change a prospect, you need to start exploring that trickier territory. The reward for such sincerity and humility will be great.
Problems come in all different shapes, sizes and varieties. There are the common kind that most people have and then there are special, self-assembly versions that can be customised. Yet no matter what type we have ended up with, our problems all have one universal feature: a hidden function, that may seem elusive but will invariably exist. This is perhaps best thought of as the equivalent of a pause button.
You have become used to an uncomfortable climate. Overpowering experiences have caused you to expect difficulty at almost every turn and, though recently things have begun to look up, you have come to the conclusion that you should continue to be wary of trouble. You have made psychological provision for this, creating various personal defence mechanisms. Of course you want to be free. Yet what else do you want? Security? Comfort? Companionship? To enjoy any of these advantages it is necessary to sacrifice a little liberty. Routine comes at the expense of spontaneity. Relationship comes at the expense of independence. Life is a balancing act and we are all pivotal points (if things are calm) or desperate jugglers (if things are not). Right now, you are trying to reconcile what appear to be several mutually exclusive needs. Relax, it's not as big deal as you fear. . It's time to remember that you are not some small cog in a giant machine. You are important. You are entitled t...
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