Why might two people choose not to be friendly towards each other? Might it be because they each instinctively feel that they probably wouldn't get along very well. Might one have inadvertently done or said something that the other took offence at? Or perhaps once, long ago, they had an easy-going interaction which deteriorated into an antagonistic one. Remember, any attempt to thaw out a frosty atmosphere, should ideally begin with at least some understanding of where the chill came from in the first place.When we over-react to trouble, we punish ourselves unnecessarily. We tend to see objectivity as a rare, precious commodity. We imagine how wonderful life might be if only we could stand further back and see things in a calm perspective. Yet we tell ourselves that this is a luxury we simply can't afford. Actually, you can't afford not to ease up! You've got to relax. You must take a stressful situation less seriously. Not only do you deserve this for the sake of your health, it's the only way you'll see how to properly solve a problem.

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