What if things don't go to plan? What, indeed, if the mooted solution to a problem turns out to create a new one more distressing than the old one? Such things can happen, argue the pessimists. They also say, 'There's many a slip twixt cup and lip.' That says plenty about their grip on reality. How often have you seen anyone experiencing such a spillage? There's not 'many a slip', it is very unusual. You would have to be so unlucky to encounter such trouble. And you are simply not that ill-favoured by the forces of fortune and we trust swings of luck.Life, as I'm sure you must have noticed, offers us all a never-ending supply of things to feel cross about, frustrated by or incredulous at. Yet it also offers a similar abundance of situations to cherish, celebrate and give thanks for. It's just sometimes rather tricky to identify the latter when our thoughts are full of the former. Deep within, you know you don't want to waste any more time stewing on a subject that distresses you. If you turn your attention to more inspiring matters. 

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