People rarely do what they ought to do. They react badly to situations that they should be able to take in their stride. They become defensive about issues that really don't merit anxiety or concern. When we see others becoming unnecessarily upset, we do our best to reassure them. It is never so easy, though, to compensate for our own fears and foibles. Don't accept all criticisms this Christmas week. Do, though, listen with sensitivity to someone who is only sincerely trying to offer you their wisdom and support Imagine being clad in cotton wool - or clanking around in some suit of armour. It would be awkward, but it would afford a lot of protection. Many people daily don the psychological equivalent of such outfits. They wrap their hearts and their heads with many layers of attitude and opinions; all designed to keep life's raw, emotional edge of uncertainty at bay,When it is to be much more exposed. That's why your hurts hurt so badly. It is also, though, as you will discover, why your joys are so intense.
You have become used to an uncomfortable climate. Overpowering experiences have caused you to expect difficulty at almost every turn and, though recently things have begun to look up, you have come to the conclusion that you should continue to be wary of trouble. You have made psychological provision for this, creating various personal defence mechanisms. Of course you want to be free. Yet what else do you want? Security? Comfort? Companionship? To enjoy any of these advantages it is necessary to sacrifice a little liberty. Routine comes at the expense of spontaneity. Relationship comes at the expense of independence. Life is a balancing act and we are all pivotal points (if things are calm) or desperate jugglers (if things are not). Right now, you are trying to reconcile what appear to be several mutually exclusive needs. Relax, it's not as big deal as you fear. . It's time to remember that you are not some small cog in a giant machine. You are important. You are entitled t...
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