DYING IS NOT END
Dying is not end,it is a change of body,restart a new journey, a new life lease we get after death. Though we have to leave here our belongings,our relatives, near and dear ones, our all. But it is not in our hands when the wheels of time turned our body changes its appearances and at last we attained old age and died.
When we lost someone dear there are five stages we have to cope up, first of all regret, denial- we do not accept the loss. We are angry with god who has taken away our loved one. As the time pass by we are going to be normal with time and accept the loss,give auto-suggestions but still we are depressed,we still have to move on. And lastly we cope up all well, and ready to move on because there is no other option left with us except to move on. If the depression is for a longer period there are chances that one refused to move on and go in deep depression,this state is dangerous for everyone as others have move on and the sufferer is alone.
There are some brave one who recoup the situation well very fast. And for some the road of acceptance is very long and thorny one. While some of us do not reach at the stage of acceptance at all and become insane at last. So clear thoughts are necessary, we have to clear what to do next, or left behind. Emotions and other feeling have importance but not to the extent to suffer life long self-imposed torture. We have to face the challenges of life bravely and death of loved one is one of them.
The soul is a circle whose circumference is nowhere but whose centre is in somebody. Death is simply a change of centre, on the contrary, god is a circle whose circumference is nowhere but whose centre is everywhere.
Death is a final challenge for everyone to accept. some find cheated by their own feelings and ignorance. They frustrated when no one understand what truly they want. They desperately want some one who try to understand the dying person,his feelings and not only care for the dying. In fact it is almost impossible to understand the other person. But we must at least try to understand the feelings,emotions,sadness, fear,or even the jealousy who are well and still alive. Dying means end. So dying person may have many repressed feelings,try to understand is enough for his satisfaction. It is a hard fact no one wants to die.
In Hindu culture relatives recite holy GEETA a holy book in which some clarification are given, acceptance to death is natural and how to accept gracefully. The dying man while listening to this book have some solace at last,rise above the emotions and accept the fact as there is no choice. It need patience when anyone of us suddenly find himself in the grip of deadly disease like cancer. Be with the person as the waves of pain and grief break with acceptance and emotion when rise slowly slowly subsides and retun the dying person to thst ground of security,calm and deeply truly sanity.
At such time wise words will not do, say anything better to make things lighter. Just be with the person,your presence is enough,your touch is best ,And if you do not understand what to do, simply ask the dying person what he wants and what you can do for him. Your love and honesty will sooth him,dying person may feel togetherness and free communication, sometime to the point talks deliver message better.You may help the dying person to attain state of enlightenment by spiritual ways. Talk to him on spiritual level . Definitely he would feel better and die peacefully.
When we lost someone dear there are five stages we have to cope up, first of all regret, denial- we do not accept the loss. We are angry with god who has taken away our loved one. As the time pass by we are going to be normal with time and accept the loss,give auto-suggestions but still we are depressed,we still have to move on. And lastly we cope up all well, and ready to move on because there is no other option left with us except to move on. If the depression is for a longer period there are chances that one refused to move on and go in deep depression,this state is dangerous for everyone as others have move on and the sufferer is alone.
There are some brave one who recoup the situation well very fast. And for some the road of acceptance is very long and thorny one. While some of us do not reach at the stage of acceptance at all and become insane at last. So clear thoughts are necessary, we have to clear what to do next, or left behind. Emotions and other feeling have importance but not to the extent to suffer life long self-imposed torture. We have to face the challenges of life bravely and death of loved one is one of them.
The soul is a circle whose circumference is nowhere but whose centre is in somebody. Death is simply a change of centre, on the contrary, god is a circle whose circumference is nowhere but whose centre is everywhere.
Death is a final challenge for everyone to accept. some find cheated by their own feelings and ignorance. They frustrated when no one understand what truly they want. They desperately want some one who try to understand the dying person,his feelings and not only care for the dying. In fact it is almost impossible to understand the other person. But we must at least try to understand the feelings,emotions,sadness, fear,or even the jealousy who are well and still alive. Dying means end. So dying person may have many repressed feelings,try to understand is enough for his satisfaction. It is a hard fact no one wants to die.
In Hindu culture relatives recite holy GEETA a holy book in which some clarification are given, acceptance to death is natural and how to accept gracefully. The dying man while listening to this book have some solace at last,rise above the emotions and accept the fact as there is no choice. It need patience when anyone of us suddenly find himself in the grip of deadly disease like cancer. Be with the person as the waves of pain and grief break with acceptance and emotion when rise slowly slowly subsides and retun the dying person to thst ground of security,calm and deeply truly sanity.
At such time wise words will not do, say anything better to make things lighter. Just be with the person,your presence is enough,your touch is best ,And if you do not understand what to do, simply ask the dying person what he wants and what you can do for him. Your love and honesty will sooth him,dying person may feel togetherness and free communication, sometime to the point talks deliver message better.You may help the dying person to attain state of enlightenment by spiritual ways. Talk to him on spiritual level . Definitely he would feel better and die peacefully.
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