Some people treat each other gently, with natural respect and sensitivity. Others are all bluff and bluster. Or, worse, they display the insidious mixed signals of passive aggression. So, we have to think twice about what people are really saying when they talk to us. We have to run our perception of their behaviour through an inner filter in an attempt to identify what others may want from us - or what we may want from them. The truth about what lies behind a key relationship needs to be recognised. When some people cook, they follow recipes. Others act intuitively. They grab whatever they have to hand and introduce it in whatever order inspires their imagination. A shake of this, a slice of that. Such improvisation requires confidence., you are reluctant to take such chances but there are some areas of life (though not necessarily in the realm of the culinary) where your spontaneity is a real asset. Something. Nothing. How many of us seem to spend half our lives or more, trying to turn one into the other? When we are not attempting to create something out of nothing for dramatic or material purposes, we often end up reducing a something to a nothing to meet other emotional needs. Strange though it may seem, we are all born blessed with both abilities. Actually, perhaps not so strange given what we come from and to what we will one day return