Everything depends on what you want.It will decrease if you secretly suspect that you are aiming for the wrong target or if you doubt your own motives and intentions or you are somehow settling for second-best. If an option is your only option, it is not a substitute; it is the real thing!  If you put yourself in a frame of mind so relaxed and comfortable, that you really don't care whether things are the way you want them to be or not. If someone is rising to a challenge and enjoying the sense of being stretched, that's another story. When we feel good, most things feel good to us! When we feel confident, we will happily put more weight on our shoulders. When we don't want to upset someone, when we want to spare their feelings, when we suspect that what they don't know won't hurt them but if they only knew what we knew, they might feel very injured, what do we do? Do we confront them with the truth? Or tell a little white lie? Or do we try to tread some precarious path between those extremes, whereby we keep silent for one reason, whilst they misconstrue our lack of communication? It may be one thing to be discreet today, but it is another thing, entirely, to be deceptive.