It is not just clothes, hairstyles and hobbies that come swiftly in and out of fashion. Attitudes and expectations also wax and wane in accordance with social trends. We all want to do what we believe to be the right thing but our definition of this is influenced by the beliefs and opinions of the people around us. History, sadly, is full of instances where what was once considered acceptable and appropriate, is now perceived as shameful, even shocking.What's less desirable: a situation that looks worse than it is in fact, or one that seems fine but disguises a hidden problem? Too often, we feel inclined to accept a set of superficial signs of reassurance; yet we grow anxious at the first suggestion that something is wrong, even when we have good reason to believe that it isn't. 

If you just keep on doing what you have always done, you surely know the result that you will get. Can you be quite so sure about what will happen if you alter some small aspect of your lifestyle?Who knows what will come rushing into your world if you so much as open even a tiny floodgate to the possibility of change. We don't want to become prejudiced and gullible. But, whenever we close our mind to an idea that a part of us would like to believe in, we risk shutting ourselves off from our own softness and sensitivity.It is our nature to be happy unless we are exploring fresh territory. Be brave enough now to be yourself! We can all be wise when we are offering advice. We can be similarly sagacious when we are looking back over our personal history and working out what went wrong. But even the greatest seers and the most knowledgeable experts have a blind spot when it comes to driving the vehicle of their own hopes and expectations. How can they be neutral and objective then? A doubt is not absolute proof of a wise insight, but it is at least a suggestion to be explored