In the olden days, when the world was less enlightened, people used to say, 'What you don't know won't harm you.' Now, we know this isn't true. Secrets produce great confusion and disorientation, even if kept for what are purportedly the most noble reasons. But here is what definitely can harm you. What you do know! What you feel so very sure that you know, that you don't even question it any more. What you take totally for granted. Look at what you are not looking at. Then you will see what you really want to see!
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If you want to lose weight, should you eat less or more? If you want to reduce stress, should you set a greater number of targets or a smaller one? If you want to feel less pressured, should you strive for higher standards or accept lower ones? Feel free to take on as much responsibility as you want. You are entitled to be ambitious and adventurous. But no matter how intense life becomes, don't imagine that the way to lead an easier life involves first making your situation more difficult. How much excitement do you want? How many intense emotional experiences do you feel you need? Do you have to get caught up in some great drama? Must you deal with problem after problem? Sorry to ask all these questions, but then questions themselves can be so very destabilising. As soon as we start to ask them, we begin to chip away at whatever is making us feel most stable and secure. You can't just ignore an unsatisfactory situation, but nor do you have to give it your full attention ri...

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