Are you doing the right thing? Let's ask that question again in another 25 years. By then, you will have gained just about enough perspective to know. Until then, well there's simply no way of telling! So you may as well stop worrying. Either it's the right thing or it isn't. If it really isn't, events and circumstances will make that clear. Meanwhile you receive a signal so strong that you cannot possibly doubt it, work on the assumption that all is as it should be. You are doing your best to be sensitive and wise.