. They say, 'If it doesn't come naturally, leave it.' But what do they know? Little in this modern world comes naturally. To get food on to your table, words into your book, apps into your phone and music into your speakers, someone, somewhere has had to make a real effort. Aren't you glad that they did? In your emotional and personal life , you will be waiting a long time for a comforting development unless you set out to engineer one. When you see real opportunities for meaningful communication, trust them.