There is, they tell us, no problem in this world that cannot be resolved through a process of constructive communication. They love saying things like this because it makes them feel wise and righteous. Notice, though, that even when the great experts sit down to talk to one another it is never long before they disagree. In an ideal world you would not be in a situation like the one you now face. But this, as you may have noticed, is not an ideal world! There is plenty to be cherished in emotional life. Just make the most of that.