H – have a calm and direct talk 
       free of judgment and anger

E – educate yourself about self-
       injury and talk to someone 
       if you need to

L – listen to and assure him or
       her that he or she is not a bad person

P – promote positive activities to
       cope with stress and emotions

I – inquire about help from a 
      doctor or counselor

N – no forcing him or her to stop;
       that’s his or her decision

G – get him or her make
       friends that share positive interests