What's wrong with genuinely seeing the good, even in what may seem bad? By all means note the difference, between what's being said and what it may really mean.If we are too confident, we become arrogant. And if we are not confident enough, we develop low self-esteem. Confidence is clearly tricky stuff. Like salt, sugar or spice in cookery, the amount that's appropriate is partly a matter of taste.A little ratio can spoil the dish you have prepared with a lot of love and care.