WOMEN FAMILY AND MARRIAGE
THE WORD I LOVE YOU AND I LOVE YOU TOO! IS IT A TRUE EXPRESSION OF LOVE OR EXCHANGE OF LOVE FEELING? NO-NO, IT IS A COVER TO COVER UP THE CONSTANT UNDERLYING FEELING OF DISCONTENTMENT OR PAIN WHICH IS INSEPARABLE FROM THE EGOISTIC STATE.
THE EGO BELIEVES THIS PERSON IS CAUSING THE PAIN,WHERE AS IT DOES NOT REALISES THAT PAIN IS UNIVERSAL FEELING OF NOT BEING CONNECTED WITH THE DEEPER LEVEL OF YOUR BEING AND NOT BEING ONE WITH YOURSELF.
End
of relationship does not mean demise of
feeling. In family if a child grows up witnessing domestic violence then that’s
what we will follow later,people are
constantly living on the edge,there is nagging feeling of dissatisfaction that should not have.If a person is still in
our life,we apologise and share our concern,our learning experiences that I
want to be like this now and I hope that you will help. Discover life through
suffering and experience,there are critical moment in a man’s life when all the
traditional reasons,we have to wait for the death,which would terminate life
without meaning,but the sufferer thinks every day can be taken from man but one’s
attitude in any given set of circumstances to choose one’s own way. Man is self determining being who is capable
of transcending all conditions imposed upon him by determination ne is a free
agent,by defying the predictions imposed upon him by discrimination based on
his upbringing religious orientations,social cultural conditioning man finally
transcends himself to the extent to transcends himself he actualize
himself. By faith you shall be free and
go beyond world of death, fait is composed of the heart intention,. Light comes
trough faith,through faith men come to payer, faith in the morning faith in the
noon and at the setting of sun faith gives us faith---rigveds.
In
love nothing is demanded in return but to the ego loving and wanting are the
same when one say I Love you to the other, its an unconscious attempt to cover up
the deep rooted discontentment of not enough of anger,hate,the unhappiness,the
sense of unhappiness. Little illusions works,then inevitably the person you singled out or made special in
your eyes fails to function for your pain,discontentment or unhappiness all of
which have their origin in that sense of insufficiency or uncomplete. Then
comes feeling that covered up and it got
projected onto the person that have been singled out and made special to
you,who you thought would ultimately saves you, suddenly love turns into hate.
The
ego does not realize that hatred is projection of universal pain,that you feel
inside, The person believes that the other person causing you the pain not
realize that universal feeling of not being connected with deeper level of your
being. The pain of not being one with yourself. People go through many relationships They fell in love and out of love many times,they love a person
for whole time and until it does not work anymore,because no person can
permanently cover up the pain.
It's a clash of surrender is a deeper universal love and complete acceptance that surrender is not sustained, however
it is get covered up again with old egoic patterns. Deeper the true love,resides
in deep in our heart where the tension between opposites growth and decay,hot
and cold success and failure, the polarities that are part of every
relationship transcend these polarities and of course part of every
relationship. You will be then in touch with a deeper place within yourself
where love and compassion arise. Accept whatever deeper emerges, the painful dilemma internal or external the most painful feeling or situation the moment
you accept these, you go beyond these,you transcend it. It may still be there
but suddenly you are at a deeper place,where it does not matter that much more
where love and compassion will arise.
At
all times, you have to do the best you can, high waves comes crashing waves
comes as gentle swell follows what ever comes stay in your ride. Life has to go
on. Become engaged in work and forget res t of things,keep doing any work,keep
attempting to produce something that is meaningful and that you respect.
Women
want full attention of men and when that attention is not forthcoming,they tend
to feel lonely. But the fact is everybody wants its own space. Women need
emotionally and physically presence and constant need to be with the loved one.
Inability to share something added to feel lonely. Inspite of social being
human creature, marriage is a practice to fill the void,few romantic attempts to complete each other then isolation in the world of its own,instead of two separate being two person as husband and wife are together,after struggling
to find and firmly establish a united identity suddenly couple struggle for
individuality. Once again these is separate I an d me with us- both say give me my space. A strange loneliness one can experience with spouse even right beside you and dive into
the world of loneliness in togetherness.
Again
turn to god not finding anything in this world of your interest.Dis nounce grows
at your head inspite of bold in front Seeds of honesty and dedication must be
sown in the mind of child,check your own domestic bliss can be elusive despite
of all the comforts available at home, an undercurrent of emptiness keeps
growing within.
When
we are happy nothing disturbed and we are unhappy everything seems to be
against us,nothing remains the same,new things are created while older one
replaced by the new,it is universal rule-if you stick to one thing no one will
listen to you . May be you are 100% right.This is normal state of affairs.
In
happy mood our fears,worry tensions are taken lightly but in depressed mood
everything is heavy. A sense of happiness emerges when you are at ease-inner peace and joy emerges. Mental
chatter stops for a while and happiness comes from inside,clearing the clouds
of doubts with clarity and brightness of sun . Sun is inner happiness and
doubts are clouds.endless thoughts,worries clear them to get the precious
treasure of peace at the bottom of water so let the water be still and in
clarity of stillness you will get peace followed by joy and bliss.
In
marriage it’s a long term partnership and long time association is supposed to
be have. But repeated failures l ower the confidence and each partber tend to
avoid the contact,to be together,a strange irritation covered all.To maintain
healthier lifestyle convey your messages with clarity of thoughts,to be
point.New generation often loked in orguments over spending time,they do not
have much time for each other because both partners have their own professional
life. It
is too late to start a fresh when natural desires suppressed,anger,frustration and boredom that seeps in relationship.then you do
not love me or want me – is the cry. Then separation is happened. Psychological and physical tems interaction and
closeness is most intimate non-verbal communication and when it is blocked ,all
is futile. Closeness ensure happiness and confidence.
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