WOMEN FAMILY AND MARRIAGE


THE WORD I LOVE YOU AND I LOVE YOU TOO! IS IT A TRUE EXPRESSION OF LOVE OR EXCHANGE OF LOVE FEELING? NO-NO, IT IS A COVER TO COVER UP THE CONSTANT UNDERLYING FEELING OF DISCONTENTMENT OR PAIN WHICH IS INSEPARABLE FROM THE EGOISTIC STATE.

THE EGO BELIEVES THIS PERSON IS CAUSING THE PAIN,WHERE AS IT DOES NOT REALISES THAT PAIN IS UNIVERSAL FEELING OF NOT BEING CONNECTED WITH THE DEEPER LEVEL OF YOUR BEING AND NOT BEING ONE WITH YOURSELF.


End of relationship does not mean  demise of feeling. In family if a child grows up witnessing domestic violence then that’s what  we will follow later,people are constantly living on the edge,there is nagging feeling of dissatisfaction  that should not have.If a person is still in our life,we apologise and share our concern,our learning experiences that I want to be like this now and I hope that you will help. Discover life through suffering and experience,there are critical moment in a man’s life when all the traditional reasons,we have to wait for the death,which would terminate life without meaning,but the sufferer thinks every day can be taken from man but one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances to choose one’s own way.  Man is self determining being who is capable of transcending all conditions imposed upon him by determination ne is a free agent,by defying the predictions imposed upon him by discrimination based on his upbringing religious orientations,social cultural conditioning man finally transcends himself to the extent to transcends himself he actualize himself.  By faith you shall be free and go beyond world of death, fait is composed of the heart intention,. Light comes trough faith,through faith men come to payer, faith in the morning faith in the noon and at the setting of sun faith gives us faith---rigveds.
In love nothing is demanded in return but to the ego loving and wanting are the same when one say I Love you to the other, its an unconscious attempt to cover up the deep rooted discontentment of not enough of anger,hate,the unhappiness,the sense of unhappiness. Little illusions works,then inevitably  the person you singled out or made special in your eyes fails to function for your pain,discontentment or unhappiness all of which have their origin in that sense of insufficiency or uncomplete. Then comes feeling  that covered up and it got projected onto the person that have been singled out and made special to you,who you thought would ultimately saves you, suddenly love turns into hate.

The ego does not realize that hatred is projection of universal pain,that you feel inside, The person believes that the other person causing you the pain not realize that universal feeling of not being connected with deeper level of your being. The pain of not being one with yourself. People go through many relationships  They fell in love and out of love many times,they love a person for whole time and until it does not work anymore,because no person can permanently cover up the pain.
It's a clash of surrender  is a deeper universal love and complete acceptance that surrender is not sustained, however it is get covered up again with old egoic patterns. Deeper the true love,resides in deep in our heart where the tension between opposites growth and decay,hot and cold success and failure, the polarities that are part of every relationship transcend these polarities and of course part of every relationship. You will be then in touch with a deeper place within yourself where love and compassion arise. Accept whatever deeper emerges, the painful dilemma internal or external the most painful feeling or situation the moment you accept these, you go beyond these,you transcend it. It may still be there but suddenly you are at a deeper place,where it does not matter that much more where love and compassion will arise.
At all times, you have to do the best you can, high waves comes crashing waves comes as gentle swell follows what ever comes stay in your ride. Life has to go on. Become engaged in work and forget res t of things,keep doing any work,keep attempting to produce something that is meaningful and that you respect.
Women want full attention of men and when that attention is not forthcoming,they tend to feel lonely. But the fact is everybody wants its own space. Women need emotionally and physically presence and constant need to be with the loved one. Inability to share something added to feel lonely. Inspite of social being human creature, marriage is a practice to fill the void,few romantic attempts to complete each other then isolation in the world of its own,instead of two separate being two person as husband and wife are together,after struggling to find and firmly establish a united identity suddenly couple struggle for individuality. Once again these is separate I an d me with us-  both say give me my space. A strange loneliness one can experience with spouse even right beside you and dive into the world of loneliness in togetherness.
Again turn to god not finding anything in this world of your interest.Dis nounce   grows at your head inspite of bold in front Seeds of honesty and dedication must be sown in the mind of child,check your own domestic bliss can be elusive despite of all the comforts available at home, an undercurrent of emptiness keeps growing within.
When we are happy nothing disturbed and we are unhappy everything seems to be against us,nothing remains the same,new things are created while older one replaced by the new,it is universal rule-if you stick to one thing no one will listen to you . May be you are 100% right.This is normal state of affairs.
In happy mood our fears,worry tensions are taken lightly but in depressed mood everything is heavy. A sense of happiness emerges when you are  at ease-inner peace and joy emerges. Mental chatter stops for a while and happiness comes from inside,clearing the clouds of doubts with clarity and brightness of sun . Sun is inner happiness and doubts are clouds.endless thoughts,worries clear them to get the precious treasure of peace at the bottom of water so let the water be still and in clarity of stillness you will get peace followed by joy and bliss.
In marriage it’s a long term partnership and long time association is supposed to be have. But repeated failures l ower the confidence and each partber tend to avoid the contact,to be together,a strange irritation covered all.To maintain healthier lifestyle convey your messages with clarity of thoughts,to be point.New generation often loked in orguments over spending time,they do not have much time for each other because both partners have their own professional life. It is too late to start a fresh when natural desires suppressed,anger,frustration and boredom that seeps in relationship.then you do not love me or want me – is the cry. Then separation is happened. Psychological and physical tems interaction  and closeness is most intimate non-verbal communication and when it is blocked ,all is futile. Closeness ensure happiness and confidence.

New style marriage is different,with different flavours demanded more skills to run house and office at the same time.Children need physical presence and emotional bonds,coordinating anything and everything is a challenge  There is no fights over petty things as you meet for a short period. Today marriages are less planned and arranged by parents so compatibility of both partners us not an issue,distance does not make heart grow founder always,the need to stay in touch and communicate a good understanding is important

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