We all have our reasons, our stories and our excuses. We can all justify the choices we have made, the actions we have taken and the attitudes we have adopted. We can all insist that we had no other option, that we did the right thing, that it had to be this way. And, when we hear someone else explaining that to us, we can all find fault with their argument if we wish to. Not everything you are now being told deserves to be accepted without question. But some of it at least deserves more sympathy and understanding.
You have become used to an uncomfortable climate. Overpowering experiences have caused you to expect difficulty at almost every turn and, though recently things have begun to look up, you have come to the conclusion that you should continue to be wary of trouble. You have made psychological provision for this, creating various personal defence mechanisms. Of course you want to be free. Yet what else do you want? Security? Comfort? Companionship? To enjoy any of these advantages it is necessary to sacrifice a little liberty. Routine comes at the expense of spontaneity. Relationship comes at the expense of independence. Life is a balancing act and we are all pivotal points (if things are calm) or desperate jugglers (if things are not). Right now, you are trying to reconcile what appear to be several mutually exclusive needs. Relax, it's not as big deal as you fear. . It's time to remember that you are not some small cog in a giant machine. You are important. You are entitled t...
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