We all have our reasons, our stories and our excuses. We can all justify the choices we have made, the actions we have taken and the attitudes we have adopted. We can all insist that we had no other option, that we did the right thing, that it had to be this way. And, when we hear someone else explaining that to us, we can all find fault with their argument if we wish to. Not everything you are now being told deserves to be accepted without question. But some of it at least deserves more sympathy and understanding.