Once bitten, twice shy.' That's what they say. And they say it for a good reason. But what if, in being so shy of that second bite, we take our attention away from other sets of teeth? Problems don't always come from the places where we expect them to emerge. Indeed, often our assumptions distract us from the issues we ought to be paying closest attention to. You are keen to avoid a repeat of an old conflict. Yet in giving a situation such a wide berth, might you be inadvertently wandering straight into different trouble?
You have become used to an uncomfortable climate. Overpowering experiences have caused you to expect difficulty at almost every turn and, though recently things have begun to look up, you have come to the conclusion that you should continue to be wary of trouble. You have made psychological provision for this, creating various personal defence mechanisms. Of course you want to be free. Yet what else do you want? Security? Comfort? Companionship? To enjoy any of these advantages it is necessary to sacrifice a little liberty. Routine comes at the expense of spontaneity. Relationship comes at the expense of independence. Life is a balancing act and we are all pivotal points (if things are calm) or desperate jugglers (if things are not). Right now, you are trying to reconcile what appear to be several mutually exclusive needs. Relax, it's not as big deal as you fear. . It's time to remember that you are not some small cog in a giant machine. You are important. You are entitled t...
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