'Leopards,' they say, 'don't change their spots.' But are you now dealing with a leopard? You can remember when someone behaved badly or a situation became uncomfortable. You cringe at the memory and think you'd be a fool to forget this. So don't forget. But do forgive. Sometimes, people really do change. Even if they don't, you have to ask how much point there is in hanging on to an old resentment or fear. Will dropping it make a difference to anyone else? Maybe not. But it could heal a hurt in you!