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You know that feeling when you come to the end of a good book. One moment you are immersed in another world, the next you are somewhere else entirely and you cannot even really return to the place you have just been. You may well experience something similar over the next few days. A saga, in which you have been deeply preoccupied, now becomes almost irrelevant. A new drama demands your attention instead. You will find that you far prefer this newly-emerging situation in your emotional life.
Once bitten, twice shy.' That's what they say. And they say it for a good reason. But what if, in being so shy of that second bite, we take our attention away from other sets of teeth? Problems don't always come from the places where we expect them to emerge. Indeed, often our assumptions distract us from the issues we ought to be paying closest attention to. You are keen to avoid a repeat of an old conflict. Yet in giving a situation such a wide berth, might you be inadvertently wandering straight into different trouble?
'Beggars can't be choosers.' So goes the old assertion made so freely by so many people that it surely must be true. Yet are we not all beggars in some way, to some extent? Do you remember getting any choice in the matter of how you came here? And when? Have not many of your life's biggest decisions been at least as much the result of pressure of circumstance as anything else? In so far as anyone can be a chooser you can. And you may yet discover that you are a lucky beggar!
If there is something you can't change, why waste time trying to change it? We can all see that logic. But then, we try to get clever. We think, 'Well, perhaps I can't change it but perhaps I can change the thing that stops me from changing it.' We fool ourselves with convoluted plans and fanciful notions. Every so often, we begin to suspect that these are working. That makes us all the more determined to continue in our quest to attain the impossible. Reach for what is actually possible. You won't regret that.
