MARRIAGE -BARTER SYSTEM

Love is natural,but love is depended on interdependence,the degree of dependence will determine the love in this way you would see that there are two type of love . One is natural godly love, the other is totally based on meeting our needs,love would be there  but when there is changes in our need love seems to be melt and disappeared like ice or water of love flew away in gaseous form. This is state of love now-a-days. So love god to find peace and love in pure form.

Women first priority is her family, in case of crisis, help will be sought  for them before even she thinks of herself. So the pressure of holding the fort also lead to depression among them - no one give the impression of week,to seek help would mean admitting to one's self   and by others that there is a problem they do not want to appear fragile ,so they plough on unmindful of the fact that they are just accommodating depression.

One must be aware of logic of relationship,we are depended upon each other directly or indirectly but ego does not accept this and clashes happen.  Law of Darwin-Battle for survival of the fittest is best suited. Selfish need for security and stability in the relation  of family,friends, marriage or in security of god's protection led to build any relationship,motive is also self. Self is always first,a naked truth. Adam and Eve had only one bite of apple to live together,no other ritual as wedding ring or party celebration like now a day, happening everywhere to announce a relationship.

In history you might have seen that wife has always been a property- not a person.Wife exchanged her body,mind and soul for food,clothing  and shelter. In other words despite religious marriage is simply a barter system where economy is at work. All other notions are fake or commercialised . But faith must be there to live together and knowing each other with passage of time spend together. Nothing has changed till now from Adam Eve time to modern time marriages works where barter system is at balance and where one party is missing something,walk out of relationship despite religious vows and promises.self is always first.

So  to know compatibility,or to now are we really made for each other is knowing one's worth,comparing and then entering into a relationship so why one expect love out of this arrangement,why both parties do not accept the fact that all other fancies are useless only this arrangement is  a simply barter system where we live together and get exchanged the qualities and needs of each other.When you are not busy in thoughts, when everything is a decision,full of colour,humour and zest- it may be love but when in love girl gets pregnant and does not want to abort the baby,lover flew away and girl is landed in a world of uncertainties.Experiencing adventure in relationship cost her much. An dark unknown part of life. But a good natured  boy would accept his responsibility and life is again on smooth tracks ,it sound like a film.

Trying to know what actually going on and what should be, how you will show your face to he society ,to the world is a complex question solved by balancing of acts.Events may be overpowering or superior to your strengths then it is useful to flow with the stream because it is useless to oppose, Try to eliminate the obstacle,be firm and decisive and make the most by being calm. Time is ever changing and you are supposed to cope up always this will strengthen your character and make you wise and virtuous.


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