Most conflicts arise only when we judge others from our point of view,not ready to see what force others to react like that ,why is the question . We make thousands of assumptions ,we do not know self how to tell about others. When I am angry- when I am criticising others ,when I   am jealous or greedy- these are my traits at different time but actually how I would react to any given situation I don't know.

Know self first. stop mental chatter first,clean your slate then write new chapter, Then you can make better choices. To know truth go within, listen to others but don't believe them.listen because their words can  be  wonderful, listen to your own voices but don't care  for all voices in the mind and heart.