Experience comes from perceptions, influences and evidence,  controlling mind is like taking charge of your life. Most common nature of human being is loving and hardly any one can survive without loving touch. Now everybody is complaining that emotional bond is missing.

It would be better to be the instrument in the hand of god,light reflect through our mind so clear the chimney of mind,once you clean it,it would reflect light more clearer. Motto of our life is to love and reflect godly love and light . The more we give, better we would feel. With malice toward none,with clarity  for all, with firmness in the right- giver can't be restless- nobody can upset you,-selfless person can never be irritated upset or disturbed. ----Abraham lincoln.

Happiness and peace you can not take away from someone,as it is not based on outer conditions,inner contentment is the source of peace and happiness.Where as expectations are led by tensions and anxieties.