There is no harm in thinking about self because if you are satisfied with yourself you can survive-be on your own, yes life is precious gift given by god so enjoy what is given to you. Demanding what you need never prove you wrong. it means you are aware of what you are!
In fact life is sum total of our own choices. We can have alternative but once what we have chosen we have to stick to it.Women are smart enough to smell what is cooking in the pot! so it is hard to please them with polished words or gestures. Men on the other hand think now women is mine, I have kids and family, a house to live in that all. But women need emotional care with love-and she guess all are just words with no meaning in real sense. This is the root cause of her frustration and only a woman can feel it. Change the world with changing self not the world- nobody can change as per our wish.Be happy!