WOMEN..................

WOMEN:- The role assigned to the women ,generation after generation and they have accepted the custom of taking it silently as their fate. They even could not think any alternative way either. Men have snatched dignity of women, women only reiterate with tears brimming in eyes. Actually women should raise their voice against injustice they suffer.

Women experience tension due to their two conflicting and demanding roles, intuitiveness and understanding will be instrumental in resolving frustrating issues. Self discipline and self worth become important issues- wisdom gleamed from past experiences will be helpful. Keeping yourself too busy to worry proved good- beneficial

WOMEN:
Women can protect men and help them in difficult moments, so every man needs a woman, Because just like a game of chess, the Queen protects a King.

WOMEN

Hitler had a woman who loved and lived for and died with. For Eva Braun Hitler was a reality while for the rest of world reality was totally different-totally most hated person. "I have already said that I shan't go on living if anything happen's to you.You know that my whole life is loving you." she wrote in a letter to Hitler.

WOMEN SOCIETY AND WE

Once upon a time,men and women work together and live in harmony.They had only love and concern for each other. There would no complaints,no fights no ill feelings.Then all of sudden they become aware of you and me,the word I dominate their WE, all changed,love faded away. Now fears,conflicts, frustration cover their cheerfulness.Because our minds are conditioned that happiness is external thing and we will be happy when we have plenty of money,material things and all kind of luxuries

This is not limited to one person. This thought is spread all over the world .We are disturbed by our wrong doings that our intelligent does not allow us to do.You can not stand tall by standing next to someone shorter,or escape by shutting our eyes,that we are not seeing what is in front of us. We are a fragment, a part of society.What we do,affects the society as well.If we want fragmentation,conflict or torn between good or bad,lost the charm of life.Women dominated by men or allow to be dominated by men.To bring change in society we have to change self,freeing self from superstitious and belief,we have to be eager to bring changes and to understand imitation stale the relationships.

Simple innocence,silence and pure love will open up new avenues in our life where we will find happiness.Society will change thought pattern and all will be good for everyone.In life there is no rewind or fast forward mode.We are bound to play the game of life till death. Men and women are equal in the eyes of god,the supreme power.We can command respect through actions,values and character. There is no substitute of hard work. To bring changes we are dreaming with open eyes.See opportunities not hurdles.We have to learn to turn fear aggression,doubts,insecurities,hatred and emptiness into their opposites.Then there would be a great change in attitudes of people in the society.Only then we will understand that body does not need only food-it need success,money,status in society,securities whether emotional or otherwise.

Women and men relationship also effects society.Love is precious pearl deep in every heart,everyone wanted to be loved women or men should not seek money,status,property etc. through marriage.They should invest only love first and all other things next.In love there is a feeling of sacredness for love.When we cease to be creative and only imitate as it is fashion in our society.Then merely we are working without passion,according to memories,memory is response of thought process.Right thinking comes into being when there is no response to memory,passive alert and awareness led to creative pattern.All conflicts end.

Love is not learned.it happened when I is missing.Love comes into being when you have found yourself to be happy,communion with nature and human beings.But we are busy in thoughts always.

Women can convey much more in their silence than word,their pains,insecurities, unbearable indignities of relationships.Marriage is a social arrangement of living together,but it is now have become only a contract.Our actions do not fallowing clarity, clarity of actions torn between respectability and what should it be. Our society has changed and so are its values,now men and women ready to be in and out of a relationship when they desire.Even to the extent one night of fabulous passion,in the morning enjoying coffee and verbal lies,women float away on a cloud of joy,.after this encounter of soul and body,moving on separate ways. When they met and unceremoniously dumped each other.Men never mind and forget such things,but women attached emotionally ,suffer emotionally,but why they let down their guard,they stop thinking and enjoyed unbridled lust with a willing mate.Men do not want to see them again,this is lost connection of affection.Think before you act

When you get married out of fear of loneliness,respectability and getting other securities,Is it love?We wanted to have a cover and get it, why we demand love now?. Stop futile thinking,love will be- when thinker is not,you have to sacrifice YOU- I- AND ME and merge all in love, for love is beyond the reaches of mind.End of I will bring eternal beginning of love even in failed marriages,this way you can bring drastic change in society, having stable relationship of men and women,giving emotional securities to their children .

.And a perfect pattern of society reflects in stable relations.

The world in the past had been ruled by force,men were dominating women by reason of his forcefulness and aggressive qualities,both of body and mind.But now in new era,balance is shifting,force is loosing its grip and now mental alertness,institutional and spiritual qualities of love and service in which women is strong.New age is more permeated with feminine ideals,it will be an AGE in which the masculine and feminine ideals are evenly balanced,the interdependence among human beings can not be based on rigidly defined roles or obligations and there by war between two sexes will be utterly destroyed.

WOMEN THE BEST CREATION

Women is best creation of god.Men and women are equal in the eye of god,even to a mother who gave birth to them,then why our society has discriminated men and women?When a girl is born,still everybody in his/her heart wanted a boy baby, why? It is because of every woman knows how hard her life is going to be,and she does not like her daughter to suffer in the same way.From the time unknown men and women had been busy helping god to extend the world,doing jobs,dividing according to the nature of job.Being women,she has capacity to bear hardships of nature,as she suffer lot of pain without complaint while giving birth to her child.She has to rear the child that is why she is supposed to be at home.When men force her to be at home,she get rebellious.

Its a family which teaches us about dedication,devotion and sacrifice apart from loving and caring each other.Both parents work hard for their children upbringing.Children too imbibe values of dedication,devotion and love,replicated more by example rather than teaching, these qualities are vital to the well being of family and society.We must put sincere efforts to strengthen the family relation-because we are a part of society.Every one yarns for love,appreciation and subtle and unseen things which really bring happiness in family plus society,Family values too perform miracles and renewal and leads us towards peace and wisdom. Women being more patient and hardworking work as an binding agent to bind together family.

It is mutual understanding,doing the job in a household by dividing the tasks according to their nature and capacity.But men from the time unknown have been exploiting women nature,they willingly allow women to come forward and help them.And when the task is done pushed her back indoors,this habit of man upset woman. Why? Ego problem.Now she has totally transformed her personality.She explored new avenues and successfully proved herself.A half century ago she titled man God or hero ,now zero,because she is empowered,she can earn her bread too!A century ago women had to suffer due to starvation if she lost her man,actual starvation, now it is not-she has provisions for her life..

Now situation is different.When women flatter a man as hero actually she masks his ego and it is her bank for ever.Now no need to flatter the man.And this is troubling men.Men were used to this master(head of the family) position.Women had deep in their heart, this hurt.Now she is equal position holder in the society,and no fake position-she has earned with hard work.She has better choices now,a wide range of choices in life that conditions allow.Now she declines to marry,if marry she decides to have children or not,in short she has full charge of her life in her own hands and man is a companion only,a partner with equal rights.Even men want educated working girls as life partner.In failed marriage she is entitled to maintenance a huge share of his husband's property too !Men use their amours carefully supervised from first day of marriage and in consequences life is wholly free from scandalous,troubles and their married life would never get distraction from work,no other troubles.That is new lifestyle.

Now women have husband's devotion and respect for them,they have earned with hard work.They have all sorts of wisdom,broken all old belief sets which were unimportant and imposed on women.Now with equal rights at home she manage her home as well as taken care of her own interests,she visits clubs,tours alone and do everything as men do.Still such women's have less in number who are blessed ones,otherwise still there are many other struggling hard to get through hardships.Women born after 1980 or 1990 are blessed one.They were brought up as pampered children,educated,aware of their rights and ignorant of their duties. they love outdoors leisure's and pleasures which they have.Women who do not enjoy such privileges envy them and like Indian cinema or Dramas make hell for their own daughter-in laws or sister - in-laws. all they do to get security or position at home.

She has occupied all important positions and proved her excellence in ever area of life. They enjoy visiting clubs,listening music,writing and listening to music,joined many organization and reforming for women status and place in society.They do not interested in household jobs but know everything about cooking,cleaning,washing every job but all jobs assigned to helpers. she does her best with means at her disposal,they have acquired expertness in other areas and intricate housekeeping left out ,bitter competition rising masculine jealously,distrust and all feeling,as now woman shakes-off duties and fighting for her rights,contrast to previous fashion of society.Now she do not want to be cuddled or caressed,protected as in earlier times, she is a competitor in a harsh world where her position needed to be reconsidered,a general overhauling of the relations between both sexes.

Now she is at the top,as she feels and wanted to be.She has no inclination for marriage,if any she want a husband of high merits,now man do not have older common law to correct his wife with a stick,Still there are a category of women who obey their husbands,even against their will but only to manage them intelligently,not to disturb their home environment.It seemed that now man is at the mercy of woman and as helpless as woman was a century ago.Still marriage institution is going on,where sometime woman made adjustments or man made adjustment to keep going their married life,its s sort of compromise.Men lend women helping hand not out of love,but out of their interests as they want well educated wife, beautiful wife earning handsome salary,so co-operate them in all household jobs,from cooking to upbringing of children. Women who know well cooking, stitching,home arrangements well are a few.A few believes in rituals of religion,knowledge and morals,so children do not have these. Everybody is enjoying freedom,leisure and finding pleasure,sometimes ungraceful and bad.A human being is inseparable from vanities,they genuinely and completely want to be happy that too without any regret.
A KISS CAN BE A COMMA,A QUESTION MARK OR AN EXCLAMATION POINT.THAT'S A BASIC SPELLING THAT EVERY WOMEN OUGHT TO KNOW.--MISTINGUETT
APPLIED PSYCHOLOGY
Applied psychology - This was the name of classes opened for women who had suffered sever pains.One woman hands were crippled with arthritis that she had lost all the use of them,other woman had in her thoughts that she had cancer of stomach. Others were chronically tired or had vague aches and pains.No, they suffered theses pains daily,all the time but their exhaustive medical examination showed that nothing wrong with these women in physical sense.ALL IS IN MIND.But these women suffered,these pains were so real.What may be the reason and how one can help them to get rid of their pains?.

Dr, Pratt realized that it was no use to tell these women patients to go home and that they have no problem when actually they are suffering from pains.He opened class for these women,they talk to women and suggest them to write down their problem on a paper, slowly-slowly their condition began to improve, Before such classes some of them were so worried about their sickness, now they were so confident and happy and in excellent health.Some were worried to the extent that the had wished to die instead of sufferings physically and be dependent on others.Dr.Rose Hilferding,the medical adviser of the class,said that she thought one of the best remedies for lightening your problems is talking your troubles over the someone you trust.It is called catharsis,listening to patients troubles over at length,until they get them past of their minds.Brooding over problems create tension and have affected their nervous system,Only feeling that there is some one who is willing to listen and able to understand, can help a lot in fact..

What caused the change,in sick women was talking to someone,getting little advice and little human sympathy. what had really worked the change was the tremendous healing value that lies in--------WORDS. Psychoanalysis is based to some extent,on the healing power of words,a patient could find a relief from his/her inner problems ,by" spitting it out "or" getting it of the chests" brings almost instant relief.

I have done it,myself writing long papers,narrating my problems and reading them again and again,until I get a solution to my problem.It helped me a lot to improve my nervous breakdown,anxieties and depression which was due to the death of my close relatives suffering from cancers,seeing their pain and trauma I felt badly,curse my fate and God too ! I had suffered depression still trying my best to cope with real life situations,I want to help many others like me through these writings
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WOMEN-SHORT COMINGS Women may envy her husband of his more soothing prerogatives and sentimentality,his masculine liberties of movement and occupation.She envy her husband for hiding the harsh face of reality behind the clock of romanticism,his general innocence and childishness.Woman wishes to mother a man because she sees into his helplessness,his need of amiable environment.But this is not the case of every woman.THOUGH SOME EXCEPTIONS ARE ALWAYS THERE.No men is 100% man and no woman is 100% woman,as woman have mannish tint and man have womanish tint.Both have some qualities in common.Woman is bolder than man,can do anything what she needed to do.If a woman hates her husband,can make his life so sour that death seem sweet by comparison.

Once empowered she ignore household chores not because she does not have time,no-no,she does not like to do petty odd jobs so forget well-organised home.Revealing dresses,heels,make-up,kitty parties,more leisure and freedom to improve mind and get first place for themselves.Rebellious women enjoy and took pride in avoiding home obligations.Freedom they have, they are getting what they want.Children are at the hands of professionals.They are earning and spending lavishly on self .Putting self first and others next.

They conceal cunningly the fundamental imperfection in well tailored clothes.It swathes those impossible masses in draperies soothingly uncertain of outline.Some special dress fitted her well but dress code of uniforms like stripping her and alleged beauty vanished.It is only rare beauty who is even tolerable.The overage woman,until art comes to her aid,has ungraceful body structure .Even she has good torso,she is surely to have bad hairs,or bow legged or muddy eyes,or no chin. A woman who meets fair tests all rounder is so uncommon that she become a marvel,and usually gains a livelihood by exhibiting herself as such either on stage or as an actress or as a cheer girl so on .Now-a-days women have become most salable item.. Selling cars ,refrigerators,T.V.;milk, biscuits and what not? Participating beauty contests,beauty-beauty-beauty. Once she was forced to do all ,now she is doing all at her own sweet will.Who is to blame?Society -who want such nonsense things,or media or businessman manipulating them to boost their sale of products.

Women is natures best creation indeed.She is superior to average man in every respect,and this quality is not god gifted ,she has acquired this place after a long and bitter fight and in that fight she exhibited forensic and tactical talents of a truly admirable order, despite she loves to be loved and love. She adores her near and dear but when someone seems to be suspicious she instantly turn to be rebellious.Home was always her dream,and sweet kids around her,she loves to cook and fed them but does not want a status of lower designation at home.She wanted to have equal partnership in household and when she pressed hard to get the things done.She lost her interest and search outside the authority,position and leisure's. Whatever she has is god gifted,whether body or talent,she cannot do anything,still she try hard to present pleasant picture.If both men and women decide to do something positive,they can,what is the use of searching continuously the things where they do not exist? She hides her harsh curves beautifully.Most women are egg shaped or pear shaped,body lost charm after sometime.She seldom allows herself swayed by emotions,she wanted to be a master in her house,mothers a child to see him helpless and demanding her love.Men need amiable environment at home. women knew how little such superficial values are worth in serious business of marriage and moreover beauty is an unimportant thing for men,it is a fact.Men very well know that human bodies except for a short period, is not a beautiful thing,but a hideous thing even their own bodies do not give them delight,it is their constant effort to disguise and conceal them,all is only for sensual provocation. Men knew all in their heart but whole business is women's world so they keep mum.
Everything exist in mind,there is nothing good or bad,only our view point from where we are watching the thing. different points have different views so debate will continue on such topics for ever.
Men women relationship is basis of all relations,if they have better matrimonial relationship,our society would be happier and prosperous one.Peace at home brings better results everywhere,as we tend to carry with us whatever is within us. Love marriages or substitution of match-making do not make happy marriages.Happy marriages are not made in heaven but on earth by working hard to make marriages successful,not all marriages are harmonious.Sugar coating melts away soon and real faces often surprises everybody. So either be separate or move on anyhow with you spouse.Late marriages, lesser the chances of better partner.Bad strain is often sufficient to obscure and nullify the good strain,in a marriage between an able man and commonplace women,the chances that any given child will resemble the mother are, roughly speaking,three to one.The fact is thought that nature is against superman,and seeks to prevent his birth. devolution is quite as natural as evolution,and may be just as pleasing,or even a good deal more pleasing to god.If the average man is made in God image then great personalities may plainly be superior to God?All animal breeders know how difficult it is to maintain a fine strain. the universe seems to be in conspiracy to encourage the endless reproduction of peasants and socialists,but a subtle apposition is surely against the reproductions of philosophers.
There may be high class men and women but marrying same class would always create ego problems so intelligent men and women often choose some lower class partner to keep upper hand and keep every thing intact in harmonious way.In fact it is good idea.But not always as everything has exceptions. attractions vanish soon. so women are always focus on realities,as they are realist .It is difficult to love a man or women who perfectly matched to the sharpness of mind. as when two contrasting parties intimate,counting every point too steadily,by and by mystery of the relation is gone and situation ends at place where they stand in the unsexed position of brother and sister. thus the temptation has within itself the seeds of decay.Husband kisses ends by making efforts to avoid kissing,even the sharing of meal,books,relatives,ambitions etc. the truth is horrible can not be described in words.And no one can overcome this distaste and boredom that get into it. so once adventurous descends to the habitual and it takes on degrading character of intimacy and joy.

By now their conversation comes to point of minimum.Only a feeling of filling space is there at home,both are living together becomes unbearable.Any habit which makes the things doing in same manner daily,eating same breakfast,makes life dull. then both are keen to separate,to find new avenues again. running round and round and reaching nowhere has become humans new fashion.But this is not the solution, solutions lies within deep in our hearts,explore and invent newer ideas to spend life wisely. Changing tracks is not good,when there is time for introspection.If separation happens,man will not come to same woman again,in India there are many customs which give chances to have a break and then reunite together,just as visiting parents home for few days in SAWAN ,mid july time.It is indeed a familiar observation that the happiest couples are those who are occasionally separated,as the separation make heart grow fonder.Perhaps not actually fonder but more tolerant.Let the men and women separate to save their happiness from suffocation in the kitchen,every nook and corner of the house by giving a sense of freshness.Both partner need space,give space to your partner and have little separation time to refresh relation by letting go suffocation out of doors.

Words are not enough to translate feeling,only you can feel-as a sugar candy in your mouth-the taste you have to taste and feel. Women is like that,you can only feel her generousness.As a mother she shower her eternal love,as a sister she play with you,she is your companion,friend. And as a wife she may be terrible after few years.It is because men tend to be careless and not bother about her emotional needs. Emotionally malnourished wife is like a live bomb,handle with care.

Women is expected to bear all burden alone,she should solve problems,manage all,making meals,maternal skills even be responsible for everybody mood, they are always open to scrutiny and criticism from family,society and work place. so she is stressed, this stress is mainly resulted in conflicts in love life,family,parenting or intimacy with their partners,effecting their sexuality and sex lives. trhen environmental stress which generated from lack of security,domestic abuse and rape, women in not safe in her own house,within four walls she is always in danger. even our culture is as such women are considered as upholders family name and honor. they are more susceptible to being shamed.Men use a process that is stress destructing,women use a process that is stress absorbent,women succumbs to be a victim which is not healthy,then they do shopping to feel empowered.

Now with higher education and empowerment women has raised their voice against injustice and do as men do. They are courageous and bold enough to handle home and work place together . they sent their children to day boarding schools or hostel to get enough time and become tension free.Now media and consumer economy insisting women to buy more to feel good and they deserve it.But there is always difference between your needs and being shopaholic is too slippery way.reading books or join club or any other recreation will do good job rather than being shopaholic though every woman has her own recipe but optimism is must..

Every thing is in women hand as they are all in all at home.They do their best to keep balance at home and workplace.
CALCULATION BEFORE MARRIAGE The fact about intellectual superiority is in genes.If Spencer ,Nietzsche had married their sons would have contributed as much to philosophy as the sons and grandsons of Veit Bach contributed to music. Even setting aside the direct influence of heredity,there is the equally potent influence of example and tuition.The tendency to first rate men to remain a bachelor is very strong,even the married ones revealed this tendency .For example Shakespeare was forced into marriage while he was still a minor.tried his best to keep away from his wife as far as possible.His distaste was the cause of his residence in London.Better sort of men and women tried their best to avoid marriage .They want to do something else rather than marriage .But it is human nature that we want to have someone with us,and when we have-we want to get rid of

.Marriage is a compulsion for humans .On the one hand men want women, on the other hand feel over burden soon, so the seek divorce,even ready to pay huge money for liberty. Men play safe game of monogamy,while women is sensible enough to choose ordinary men to have safe marriage and children.She avoid high class men because she knew well their nature. Now a new way to have children by way of adoption,both men and women feel free of marriage obligations.Newer way to have freedom..Ethical motives can be abandoned whenever necessary,as experiences turn against them .Civilized men and women favor passion and passion is most dangerous of all the surviving enemies to what we call civilization,

which is based upon order,decorum, restraint,formality,industry,regimentation etc.

The ideal men never sacrifices the common security to his passions.He reaches perfection when he even ceases to love passionately--when he reduces the most profound of all his instinctive experiences from the levels of ecstasy to the level of a mere device for workshops of the world,even making possible to know where every citizen is at any hour of the day or night.Monogamy accomplishes this,not by producing satiety,but by destroying appetite.It makes passion formal and uninspiring,and so gradually kills it.The moral business of safeguarding the virtue of the unmarried is still passionate.It is quite impossible to kill a passion by arguing against it ..99% ,young men and women would submit the it would be much easier to submit than to resist.Curiosity would be satisfied,nature would get out of her cage,even romance would get an inning.But result? Disillusioned demoralizing passion.Nature is as it is!

Men women relation is complementary. Marriage of higher class men and women take place lately because of their priorities,which may be higher education or good career.But at last they both get married and settle down to live together.Both need each other emotionally, though other three factors are too cover under the package of marriage

.Women have greater capacity to controlling and concealing their emotions.This capacity is so rare today,today how to mask feelings is difficult as trend is changed now .Women are always against the war this is either transparently dishonest as at home they are always known as good fighter now a days,with so called women empowerment.Women recognize the nature of modern war instantly and accurately,they advocated no disingenuous efforts to conceal it.

The feminine talent for concealing emotion is probably largely responsible for the common masculine belief that women are devoid of passion,and men on the occasion when they give attention to he matter,are in state of conductive to exact observation.The truth is that there is absolutely no reason to believe that the normal woman is passionless.To be sure the peculiar vanity of men makes place a high value upon the virginal type of woman,and so this type tends to grow more common by sexual selection,but despite the fact it has by no means superseded the normal type,so realistically described by the theologians and publicists of Middle Ages.It would however be rash to assert that this long-continued sexual selection has not made itself felt,even in the normal type.Its chief effect,perhaps,is to make it measurably easier for a woman to conceal emotion than it is for a man. And this may be the main reason for concealing true emotions. At least every one of these men suffered from some obvious and intolerable qualification. Either he had a wife already and was vague about getting rid of her,or was drunk when he was brought proposal and repudiated it or forgot it the next day,or he was a bankrupt or his relatives were impossible.But always eligible for marriage in our society,Women who have become victim ,lose their market value in marriage.But men may be so cheap is eligible for marriage made women to conceal their truth.That is the main reason for not discussing such matters at all.It is transmitted from mother to daughter,so to speak behind the doors.But now educated women is smart enough to fight for her own rights,she can raise a voice against any such abuse may it be within four walls of house or outside.She knew now how to handle the situation.And now men are sufferer.Lately men can dictate women easily now women dictate men.

Now relations have lost their warmth, because men and women both are out of house .Both of them are working then who will handle other domestic matters.Now male and female ego are at the same level.Now she cannot be dominated. Women are reluctant to enter into marriage.But this is applicable to average type of women.Marriage offers the best occupation which offers security emotional or as regard gained by way of getting married, economic security as wife is better half and has a fair share in her husband property. economic security is relative security,the best provider when wife want her share of property by force to have divorce soon after marriage and this is very mush in fashion now.In western countries rich women are due to divorce factor,getting divorce have money and liberty to enjoy life. In marriage she seeks a husband not sentimentally but realistically.It is common for men to marry women who bring nothing as joint property.Many rich men marry a teacher or governess etc. any woman that appeals him without a second thought.He want a pretty women as arm candy and feel better in society by having beautiful lady. Where as women get secure position in that station of life to which she is accustomed.Marriage is a form of partnership where both parties into a contract to live together enjoying best of life.Now it is degraded as never before. Women /men make calculations what will happen in future,if he/she marry a clerk ,will be head of the department after few years.Man thin"I wooed and won her:" whereas wife says"I made him run". earlier man suppose to be a monster and wife as victim. But now things have changed a lot.

Now no one marries their first choice as first choice may be beyond their talents.their second or third choice.Proceeds from moving picture actor or actress to beauty ,they are carried away by greater skills and greater attraction.This is normal history of a marriage.they seek a wide range of choices as the condition of their life allow. the servant girl, chorus girl or vampire of pictures or t.v. serials would be the millionaires wife of next year.Both sexes roll eyes as wide as they can to get a partner in life. And who get their first choices are rare. An average man or woman is well aware of fact that difference between man and woman is so slight to be practically negligible if money is put aside.Thus woman is none of common masculine illusion about soul mates or love at first sight etc.She is always ready to marry a man who is plainly eligible,and she usually knows a good many more such than one.Her demand is not love or romance but for comfort and security,she is thus easier to satisfied than a man and oftener happy.One frequently hears of remarried widowers who continue to moon about their dead wives bur for a remarried widow to show any such sentimentality would be nine days wonder. But this may be to get new husband attention and prove her loyalty.The bachelor capacity to avoid marriage is no more thana proof of his relative freedom from the ordinary sentimentalism of his sex-- in other words of his greater approximation to the clear-headdedness of the enemy sex..

WHAT A WOMAN TO BE

Woman is a beautiful gift of god.Men can not do without women and women can not do without men.Then why both are engaged in making hell for each other?Both are moving onto new relationships only to discover that all is same,they perhaps forget that outer relationships are reflection of inner relationship,we have with ourselves.we are equal as human beings, as God’s children. I know that men control our planet, expect to control the universe and the majority abuse their power and control. It is obvious that women are still struggling to achieve the position that God has assigned to them and believe that all women share a basic nature. Our interior nature, or inner-self experiences, and, our exterior nature or the way we feel and interpret our world, our surroundings, culture, education, social status, and time. Our inner and external lives are related and interconnected. Our external life influences our inner Self, but does not determine who we are. Our inner life needs to be free to manifest in our external world so that we can change and transform our exterior.Women share in the way, we feel and express those feelings through our bodies. Our body manifests our femininity, which comes from within, but it usually conforms to our environment. The way we dress, act, and communicate is a reflection of our culture, educational level, and social status, and an expression of how we feel, how we see ourselves and how we think others see us. As women, we have the necessity to understand our image, our identity, our essence-our true nature .
I MAY NOT BE A SMART MOM BUT I KNOW WHAT LOVE IS.--FOREST GUMP

If our beliefs and values come from what we learned, the way we perceive the world, interpret our experiences, and from what we believe to be true; then we can be certain that our fundamental values and beliefs come from a male perspective. Men taught for centuries the roots and traditions that define who women are and how we should be. Men expect women to raise their children with patriarchal values and a “male- dominant” belief system.And very idea meant to interpret the world has a standing point of view and/or a belief system. Women have to convince the men that are in power and control positions, & our point of view regarding our understanding and interpretation of the world. The war between the sexes has substituted the war against the spiritual forces that are feeding this war. This battle is “not against flesh and blood, but against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”

Being a woman has not been easy for me; I have suffered abuse and rejection from men and chauvinistic women, but I have found love and respect too. I learned that my battle is not against men, but against the belief system, against the “schemas” that involve us in wrong beliefs and emotions. Also against the lies that make you believe that women are guilty of the sins of the world, that women are: dumb, weak, silly, ignorant, emotional, incapable to lead, lacking authority, only mothers, prostitutes, a possession, an object of pleasure, house cleaners, diaper cleaners, cookers, the man rib and/or their helpers, among others. .We are here:-To share with God beauty and creativity, a greater capacity for love, compassion and forgiveness; a rational mind, but also an emotional nature that strives for relationship, marriage and family unity.

Time is always fit for a change,women have to show their abilities to the world.not as a thing but as a human being.Women power is indeed great but still the universality of female subordination exists every where,in every type of society.We do not know the reason but it had been carry forward since ti me unknown. .Logically every society assumes the inferiority of women, the logic is highly persuasive this is the main reason:why people still subscribing to this notion?.In India and China women is worshiped as goddess but at home the same devaluation of women continue.Elements of cultural ideology and informants statements that explicitly devalue women according to them ,their roles,tasks,their products and their social milieux less presige than are accorded men and the male correlates,symbolic devices and social structural arrangements that exclude women from participating in or contact with some realm in which the highest powers of the society are felt to reside

Certainly, female exclusion from the most sacred rite or the highest political council is sufficient evidence. Certainly, explicit cultural ideology devaluing women (and their tasks roles, products, etc.) is sufficient evidence. Symbolic indicators such as defilement are usually sufficient, although in a few cases in which, say, men and women are equally polluting to one another, a further indicator is required-men throughout history, by arguing that women’s subordinate status is a result of the human mindset that human culture is superior to nature, that culture is man’s way of subduing nature.

Sherry B.Ortner argues that women are largely identified with nature because they are the ones who give birth, and thus create new life. Women must devote a greater portion of their time and body than procreation than men, as they have more body parts and functions, such as breasts and menstruation, that solely exist for the purpose of having children. They are seen as being more connected to children. Therefore, society often confines women to a domestic familial role, freeing up the men to pursue more “cultural” endeavors like art or religion. Children themselves are viewed as primitive humans, not yet civilized by the affects of culture. As women are the ones who raise children, transforming them into sophisticated adults.Nonetheless, “Women [during menstruation] formerly rode inferior horses and evidently this loomed as a source of contamination, for they were not allowed to approach either a wounded man or men starting on a war party. A taboo still lingers against their coming near sacred objects at these time,as a result women are not only naturally subordinate but in general quite satisfied with their position,since it affords them protection and the opportunity to maximize maternal pleasures, which to them are the most satisfying experiences of life. Without going into a detailed refutation of this position.

Not all women are under such a state,now women have gain strength and fighting for theri rights and justice.But blessed are few,they have to come forward and help others. Women is best creation of god.Men and women are equal in the eye of god,even to a mother who gave birth to them,then why our society has discriminated men and women?When a girl is born,still everybody in his/her heart wanted a boy baby, why? It is because of every woman knows how hard her life is going to be,and she does not like her daughter to suffer in the same way.From the time unknown men and women had been busy helping god to extend the world,doing jobs,dividing according to the nature of job.Being women,she has capacity to bear hardships of nature,as she suffer lot of pain without complaint while giving birth to her child.She has to rear the child that is why she is supposed to be at home.When men force her to be at home,she get rebellious.

In fact sleep is finest music in the world and dreamworld is very beautiful,better in every-bodies sight,everyone find heavenly delight in sleep.In finding delight agreeable means and exteriors and easy means are persuaded. this is in short,our life

WOMEN &MARRIAGE DECISION
Women decide the larger questions of life correctly and quickly because they have sense and not any magical inherited power.They see at a glance what most men could not see even with telescopes. women are at grips with the essentials of a problem before men merely waste their time on debating its externals. women are realists of the race and possessors of rare and subtle logic. though they can be deceived as they tend to see brighter side of things and matter.Men too have special brains,but such type is very rare.

In case of marriage women is not sentimental,she will judge all pros and cons prior to any commitment,same is in case of men,both are now very honest to their needs.Now marriages are not merely accumulation of romance,just after few days real faces come to fore and constantly conflicts arise.When the other is not fitted well to his/her expectation and they can part their way within few days, no wait,no compromises just let go and move on to other relationship.Women are more cool headed than men,and more adept in employing their intellectual resources. as men try to avoid marriage as long as possible whereas women interest is to make a favourable marriage as soon as possible. Men are eager to get a companion and not many men get name,fame or wealth by marriage.But women get husband name and everything he possesses as being his better half by getting their best of best.He see a glamour of romance in marriage. A man realise marriage as a bargain in which he gets the worst of it,however he get some visible gain he get a housekeeper to protect his house and its belongings,entertain his friends and relatives.But he does not want to share his personal belongings .He may yarn for a son.He has in his dreams a beautiful partner but never eager to share anything about his bank book or secret ambitions.

He may want a partner or company but not intimacy or intimacy and not company.He may want a good cook but not a partner in his business.In order to get the things he want he has to take a lot of things that he does not want. A man really does not want such type of things in marriage but has to take up all that hurt him deep inside.First few days or years went by somehow but after that real things come face to face.Marriage gives right to fight against him,wife knew all and soon man he become aware of all results that he has achieved the intellectual disaster that is called falling in love,and he is hers to do what she want at will. this is one sided picture now see the other side i.e. wife is at the other end,let us see her view about marriage.

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IDEAS ABOUT WOMEN

Ideas may be new but later on you will find that what you are febricating in your thoughts is borrowed material either from books you have read or people talking about .It happening at all times and everywhere.Films are remaking,novels are rewritten even you may heard many songs ,but music is almost same,in fact words are refabricated on old tunes,So whats new,only people who may be new to that process.

It is simply, to be quite honet, that who volunteer to think out new ones seldom.Nature,indeed,conspires against all such genuine originality,and I have no doubt that God is against it on his heavenly throne,as people are here on the earth..A right way to think and a wrong way to think in everything in the most trival matters of everyday. Thinking on many other planes,high and low -toying with ideas may be risky sometimes.Woman is such a queston, a question of capital importance to all human beings,and is is deserved to discussed honestly and frankly.But there is so much wrong notons,superstition and emotions intermingled with it that most of thrown off as useless and hollow.The problem always left unattended and left the problem what is to be done?In truth I am very suspicious of all remedies for the major ills of life,and believe that most of them are incurable.But at least I venture to discuss the matter rellistically.Ideas that larger masses hold and the processes whereby they reach them.

In my this blog I am going to write about women,in series,to be continued in many of my next published blogs. So starting from the FAMININE MIND.

If you believe what you see on TV, women are inscrutable, conniving, hysterical and apt to change their minds without reason or warning. Some women's magazines perpetuate these stereotypes by offering advice on how to entrap men or keep them guessing.

There is no doubt that every person has a special adaptation for his own peculiar part in life. A very few--the geniuses, we call them--have this marked in an unusual degree, and very early in life A man's business does more to make him than anything else. It hardens his muscles, strengthens his body,quickens his blood, sharpens his mind, corrects his judgment, wakes up his inventive genius, puts his wits to work, starts him on the race of life, arouses his ambition, makes him feel that he is a man and must fill a man's shoes, do a man's work, bear a man's part in life, and show himself a man in that part. No man feels himself a man who is not doing a man's business. A man without employment is not a man. He does not prove by his works that he is a man. A hundred and fifty pounds of bone and muscle do not make a man. A good cranium full of brains is not a man. The bone and muscle and brain must know how to do a man's work, think a man'sthoughts, mark out a man's path, and bear a man's weight of character and duty before they constitute a man.

Whatever you do in life, be greater than your calling. Most people look upon an occupation or calling as amere expedient for earning a living. What a mean, narrow view to take of what was intended for the great school of life, the great man-developer, the character-builder; that which should broaden, deepen, heighten,and round out into symmetry, harmony and beauty, all the God-given faculties within us! How we shrink fromthe task and evade the lessons which were intended for the unfolding of life's great possibilities into usefulness and power, as the sun unfolds into beauty and fragrance the petals of the flower.

"Girls, you cheapen yourselves by lack of purpose in life," says Rena L. Miner. "You show commendable zeal in pursuing your studies; your alertness in comprehending and ability in surmounting difficult problems have become proverbial; nine times out of ten you outrank your brothers thus far; but when the end is attained, the goal reached, whether it be the graduating certificate from a graded school, or a college diploma, for nine out of every ten it might as well be added thereto, 'dead to further activity,' or, 'sleeping until marriage shall resurrect her.'

"Crocheting, placquing, dressing, visiting, music, and flirtations,make up the sum total for the expense and labor expended for your existence. If forced to earn your support, you are content to stand behind a counter, or teach school term after term in the same grade, while the young men who graduated with you walk up the grades, as up a ladder, to professorship and good salary, from which they swing off into law, physics, or perhaps the legislative firmament, leaving difficulties and obstacles like nebulæ in their wake.--You girls,satisfied with mediocrity, have an eye mainly for the 'main chance'--marriage. If you marry wealthy,--which is marrying well according to the modern popular idea,--you dress more elegantly, cultivate more fashionable society, leave your thinking for your husband and your minister to do for you, and become in the economy of life but a sentient nonentity. If you are true to the grand passion, and accept with it poverty, you bake, brew,scrub, spank the children, and talk with your neighbor over the back fence for recreation, spending the years literally like the horse in a treadmill, all for the lack of a purpose,--a purpose sufficiently potent to convert the latent talent into a gem of living beauty, a creative force which makes all adjuncts secondary, like planets to their central sun. Choose some one course or calling, and master it in all its details, sleep by it, swear by it,work for it, and, if marriage crowns you, it can but add new glory to your labor." Dr. Hall says that the world has urgent need of "girls who are mother's right hand; girls who can cuddle the little ones next best to mamma, and smooth out the tangles in the domestic skein when things get twisted; girls whom father takes comfort in for something better than beauty, and the big brothers are proud of for something that outranks the ability to dance or shine in society. Next, we want girls of sense,--girls who have a standard of their own regardless of conventionalities, and are independent enough to live up to it; girls who simply won't wear a trailing dress on the street to gather up microbes and all sorts of defilement; girls who don't wear a high hat to the theatre, or lacerate their feet with high heels and endanger their health with corsets; girls who will wear what is pretty and becoming and snap their fingers at the dictates of fashion when fashion is horrid and silly. And we want good girls,--girls who are sweet, right straight out from the heart to the lips; innocent and pure and simple girls, with less knowledge of sin and duplicity and evil-doing at twenty than the pert little schoolgirl of ten has all too often. And we want careful girls and prudent girls, who think enough of the generous father who toils to maintain them in comfort, and of the gentle mother who denies herself much that they may have so many pretty things, to count the cost and draw the line between the essentials and non-essentials; girls who strive to save and not to spend; girls who are unselfish and eager to be a joy and a comfort in the home rather than an expense and a useless burden. We want girls with hearts,--girls who are full of tenderness and sympathy, with tears that flow for other people's ills, and smiles that light outward their own beautiful thoughts. We have lots of clever girls, and brilliant girls, and witty girls. Give us a consignment of jolly girls, warm-hearted and impulsive girls; kind and entertaining to their own folks, and with little desire to shine in the garish world. With a few such girls scattered around, life would freshen up for all of us, as the weather does under the spell of summer showers."

Now women have more freedom and leisure to improve their minds.They have higher levels of intelligence or take part in affairs of first importance,but now she has no time to cook food or handling whole domestic affairs.So imbalance between two sexes is there which resulted in domestic inefficiency while excelling in other fields.Now land of enthroned woman is land of canned soups and ready to eat food.Now there is tendency to throw all responsibilities to professionals from child-rearing to educating either in play-way schools or day-boarding schools to trained the minds of children in every field be it moral education or hygiene related or religion related.No tension,throw money and get all.

In brief ,women rebel unconsciously against the dull,mechanical tricks of trade that society compels them to practice for a living,and their rebellion testifies to their intelligence. The inherent tendency of any woman is to evade the whole obligation or reduce its demands to the minimum.Now woman enters marriage institution with

tendency to compete with man and not to carry on obligations which were lately supposed to have.Now most marriages failed within . months or days.Because now she is not ready to be helpless as a feeble lamb.She has authority .Now women is in every profession from teacher to scientist .Now woman is prime minister/President of country.Now only home or kitchen is not her occupation.

Men have forced upon women an artificial character which will conceal their real character,and women have found it profitable to encourage the deception.Though every man think himself a intellectual superior of woman, and particularly of his wife,he constantly gives the lie to his pretension by consulting and deffering to what he calls her intuition.Actually he knows by experience that her judgement is more subtle and accurate which is due to examination of situation ,which is not technical problem but out of the rarer and most fundamental and most difficult problem.But no man would actually want to consult with his wife because of ego problem,never even discuss about marrying off their daughter or about hia business.

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SEX BUSINESS AND WOMEN

In past it was considered that those who have entered in sex business due to dire need of necessities.But now it is most attractive business,and open to all sorts of women.In daily newspapers you may read that college girls of upper class doing sex business willingly.It seems now she likes it,only social reformer or who have been fallen into the hands of so called social reformers cursed this. She is free bird,free to join and free to abandon it. It is considered as a business secretly,a lavish business where so called socialites earn favors and money.It is find that she has no complaints so far as she is earning well,a good living and she is quiet content with her lot.Her complaints will be when she has earned less below her expectation,then she cry a foul play or a rape case.It is a hard fact not easy to digest,but it is doing well under covers. A well known fact but no one discuss it.

Previously such business may impaired their chances of marriage,now she has successful marriages afterwards,no not because she feel obliged and do her best to make marriage a success.But because her manners get polished while dealing with different people .She has specialized professionally in masculine weaknesses.She is harder to please now and please less.Because she is making her bread and butter herself,doing all at her own sweet will,free will. she alone makes the choices in her life and does not like any type of interference.She will never be grateful to her husband for rescuing her from social outlawry.she is shrewd and specialized in her business,know masculine weaknesses and deals with extra competent at her traditional business.It is difficult to deceive her logically and it is impossible to disarm her emotionally,her success as a rebel is proof of her extra resourcefulness and acumen ,her intellectual enterprise and courage. a lowly prostitute is well off than a virtuosos women .

Her sharp mind presents a menace vastly greater than acts of god.They will be more dangerous than tsunamis.They know how to show off their beauty,ideas and charms to win men as their companions.A man can starve his wife but shower plenty of wealth to prostitutes. Sole valuable thing a woman can bring to marriage is her virginity,it was a thought in old times ,even now it holds much value.But how one can expect such thing when she is wondering here and there at her own will and doing anything to please self.To treat self equal to man woman has lost her valuable thing willingly. So virgin is hallow thing- convention,no shame,no fear and no apologizes for this loss. THEY SAY THAT WISDOM IS CONSISTS OF ENTIRELY A BODY OF BELIEFS AND PROPOSITIONS THAT ARE UNIMPORTANT.

When it comes to late marriages or no marriage,it is from woman side,having a child or no child is also her decision.Her declination to marriage is solely her own choice.If she get married ,she will have a husband of high merits and moreover now husband has no common law, as it was in older times- to use a stick to correct his wife.If there are women who obey their husbands,even against their best judgements,there are women who discreetly at husbands departure manage all intelligently.

And if men are lending helping hand to his wife,it is too not out of love,it is because they themselves wanted a well educated wife,office going wife so to run house he has to help her.And women who know how to cook, stitching and other art of home decoration etc.very less in number now as everything is ready-made available.She love to do which is less monotonous and dispiriting.And sex business is so.Again women can settle themselves at any age say 5-10 or 20years after this business,they can either have a suitable husband or lived with dignity afterwards. These women get husband which are beyond the reaches of a virtue holder woman. But they married respectable men,richest men as their experiences polished and civilized.So your all sympathies wasted.Some considered marriage as a spiritual suicide.

What-so-ever the reasons may be marriage had been a superiority to all conditions available. Still women's economic Independence is full of conditions,on the other hand they have always been revolted against the conventions,which is result of general unrest.With many symptoms of extravagant and unintelligent revolt and even party politics fill their mind with useless tricks,customs,knowledge and their own liberties and personalities.Though they can avail some relaxation in some areas but in the long run women themselves have understanding that to avoid home routine- intolerable healthy well fed women engage in public activities that are meaningless, now they knew it very well.To make heaven or hell all is in our own hands,so why not do the right things at right time?Men have to carefully supervised their home life from first day of their marriage. earn respect first.Check harsh realities of men,showing off superiority to women is not good in a marriage.Or do anything out of marriage and invite hell,do not engage or boast of having a mistress.She will do the same.She will try to find more leisure and pleasures,freedom to improve their mind and quality of life.Getting rebel-enjoying and took pride in applying other tactics Life has harsh realities face them boldly..

WOMEN NATURE
Religion is highly favorable for women.If they accept renunciation it is only an effort to flout their substance under cover of their appearance. Their gentleness is visible only in security,the moment they find something dangerous for themselves,or for their husband or their children-or anyone who is under her protection, nothing would stop them to go to any extent, as they are clearheaded and resourceful.In fighting she bite they have dental reach and apply biting in fighting.Be it home or any religious place. she will fight to have her share first in any field of life.
Women in old times have to suffer a lot,they prefer marriage to sufferings.If by chance they lost their husband,they would prefer to go to be NUN or join any charity institution. They had to work hard.They have no respect without husband.Now to some extent situation has changed.Now she is equal position holder in family due to her education and job.Women a century ago face actual starvation in case of her husband died or a failing marriage.
In marriage sexual relationship,companion,communion and love is invested.Without love marriage is a source of gratification of desires only,results in conflicts,fears of insecurity and pains. Women starved for child and when deprived of child,there is no love.When we seek something in return love faded away.same is in men's case.When things become important,possessions become important,demands comes first love dies and only a cover of marriage is left.From work to worship,money,child anything materially dominate nothing left in any relationship.Craving converts into conflicts,complaints and frustration and miseries at last.This is happening in marriages these days

Women is quiet able to take care of herself.And all the women suffer from suppressed revolt against the inhibitions forced upon them by men and our artificial culture. This is men's world,women have broken many of their old chains,but still they are under some unformidable network of man made taboos.They have longing for freedom in their heart.They can do miracles by their commonsense and tackle any complicated situation .They know how to organized things properly and effectively. Feminine sharpness of wit and clear thinking and ability to bear any pain easily make their work get translated into success. They do believe in hard work but never happy with anything forced upon them.Women are forced by men ,men feel that temple going somehow keeps women in order and they are assured of their piousness and seek help against their sins.

Women who enter upon religious life are almost having some motive apart from piousness,girls may driven into by economic security or by the hope of heaven,or failed marriage or anything similar to it.Very few are real saints.Otherwise it is only a social habit,or excuse for elderly ladies for relaxation and gossips.These women in their daily lives,are surrounded by a formidable network of daily routine jobs.,their normal desire for ease and freedom,they get by being religious.You may see such examples everywhere.Young women visits temples to get husband of their choice,or job or anything like that ,from God so women get relieved by worshiping . Now they have liberty to go any religious place,performing any ritual.Then they can brush their shoulders with the crowd,may speak on any topic of their choice and stretch their spiritual legs.In deep their heart they want variety, excitement and both are possible on the pretext of visiting various temples of the lord.It offers a means of refreshment,of self expression of personal display of boasting. The attraction in their salvation is always most purely social,a aesthetic lure,they lift themselves above the barren routine of everyday life and sentimentality to seek pleasures in spirituality. In fact spirituality offers a means of escape,convenient an d inviting from that sordid routine of thoughts,occupation which women tend to revolt against. Every one can see this practice everywhere.

Man is always looking for someone to boast to, and woman always looking for a shoulder to put her head on.She is born with half convinced that she is really weak and helpless and later on she pretends to be so. When in trouble she seeks his help and he always lend his hand to hold her.She can cry hysterically before any saint to have his blessings and godly help through saint.

MARRIAGE CALCULATIONS

Marriage is a dreamworld for most of young men and women,but soon real colors of this beautiful relationship start revealing in, silence boredom and suffocation,all conclude that the corpse is already laid down in house,of relationship. It As for man pains are usually lightened by being disagreeable in marriage,moreover man work is already bore so he never feel anything as he is used to boredom.Perhaps boredom is a natural state for most of men.Men has capacity to sit at one place and work for hours. Men can work as a writer,judge or clerk any job.But women may bore him badly,as men do like attachment like glue. She tires him by variety. she is too dynamic,he is weary when he gets home and asks only the dull peace and comforts but wife gets restless by curiosity to know each and everything.Men think that under marriage contract all duties lie upon men and all privileges given to women.Women think she is a prisoner,she can not act as per her will,only to obey what is ordered.

Men thought she is free of tensions as she has to sit at home and work within four walls. Women think apposite to it.Still husband is head of the family,he has authority over the purse strings,over the children,and even over his wife,and wife is his personal property- she is not a living thing.He has safeguarded his self respect and have support of public opinion, though laws have given some liberty to women but still laws do not change anything.All of old rights have been converted into obligations, now women have their right to property,she may devote its income to the family or spend on her shopping.Though this liberty is only for self-empowered women who are less in number.Now she has equal authority in regulating or disposing of matters related to children.There is no law compelling her to do her share of family labour,she may spend her entire time on her own.She cannot be forced to perpetuate the family name if she does not want to. she cannot be attacked with masculine weapons,e.g. fists,and forearms,when she makes an assault with feminine weapon e.g.snuffing,sabotage or invective.Now no lawful penalty can be visited upon her if she fails to keep their home clean,children in order or preparing food at times.But two wrongs can not make one right thing. if earlier women were suffering,,now both are suffering.Main sufferer are children who deprive of their right, they are alone when they are supposed to be loved by their mothers

Now husband is like a money making machine,once he submit to marriage,his wife obtains a fair share of property,including all he may acquire in future.In western countries husband can not sell his property without her consent,he can not deprive of her of his property because she is taking care of their children or doing her household jobs carelessly.Now she has all rights but no obligation.This has become a headache for many men.She may neglect her house and other jobs related to their household and children but you cannot ask her a question about what she has been doing,about her indecent dresses ,or joining any political party instead of their marriage or home.Now men has no choice but to accept all,if he want to corrects her by locks her up,or cutting off her revenues,he may get six months jail or women activists will punish him.So dare not to do so. It is now men turn to face the world,he may face instant disgrace or punishments,she may proceed against her husband to get relief.No firm bounds.

Though she must not assault him with edged tools,leave him altogether or strip off her few remaining clothes and go naked. this is not women empowerment at all, because once she was forced to do all shameful jobs by force and now she is doing all willingly. SOME SHAMEFUL ACTS ARE REALLY INTOLERABLE .for both sexes,if woman is doing wrong it is wrong and when man is doing wrong it is wrong and two wronds do not make one thing right!

MARRIAGE
Men women relationship is basis of all relations,if they have better matrimonial relationship,our society would be happier and prosperous one.Peace at home brings better results everywhere,as we tend to carry with us whatever is within us. Love marriages or substitution of match-making do not make happy marriages.Happy marriages are not made in heaven but on earth by working hard to make marriages successful,not all marriages are harmonious.Sugar coating melts away soon and real faces often surprises everybody. So either be separate or move on anyhow with you spouse.

Late marriages, lesser the chances of better partner.Bad strain is often sufficient to obscure and nullify the good strain,in a marriage between an able man and commonplace women,the chances that any given child will resemble the mother are, roughly speaking,three to one.The fact is thought that nature is against superman,and seeks to prevent his birth. devolution is quite as natural as evolution,and may be just as pleasing,or even a good deal more pleasing to god.If the average man is made in God image then great personalities may plainly be superior to God?All animal breeders know how difficult it is to maintain a fine strain. the universe seems to be in conspiracy to encourage the endless reproduction of peasants and socialists,but a subtle apposition is surely against the reproductions of philosophers.

There may be high class men and women but marrying same class would always create ego problems so intelligent men and women often choose some lower class partner to keep upper hand and keep every thing intact in harmonious way.In fact it is good idea.But not always as everything has exceptions. attractions vanish soon. so women are always focus on realities,as they are realist .It is difficult to love a man or women who perfectly matched to the sharpness of mind. as when two contrasting parties intimate,counting every point too steadily,by and by mystery of the relation is gone and situation ends at place where they stand in the unsexed position of brother and sister. thus the temptation has within itself the seeds of decay.Husband kisses ends by making efforts to avoid kissing,even the sharing of meal,books,relatives,ambitions etc. the truth is horrible can not be described in words.And no one can overcome this distaste and boredom that get into it. so once adventurous descends to the habitual and it takes on degrading character of intimacy and joy.

By now their conversation comes to point of minimum.Only a feeling of filling space is there at home,both are living together becomes unbearable.Any habit which makes the things doing in same manner daily,eating same breakfast,makes llife dull. then both are keen to separate,to find new avenues again. running round and round and reaching nowhere has become humans new fashion.But this is not the solution, solutions lies within deep in our hearts,explore and invent newer ideas to spend life wisely. Changing tracks is not good,when there is time for introspection.If separation happens,man will not come to same woman again,in India there are many customs which give chances to have a break and then reunite together,just as visiting parents home for few days in SAWAN ,mid july time.It is indeed a familiar observation that the happiest couples are those who are occasionally separated,as the separation make heart grow fonder.Perhaps not actually fonder but more tolerant.Let the men and women separate to save their happiness from suffocation in the kitchen,every nook and corner of the house by giving a sense of freshness.Both partner need space,give space to your partner and have little separation time to refresh relation by letting go suffocation out of doors.

Words are not enough to translate feeling,only you can feel-as a sugar candy in your mouth-the taste you have to taste and feel. Women is like that,you can only feel her generousness.As a mother she shower her eternal love,as a sister she play with you,she is your companion,friend. And as a wife she may be terrible after few years.It is because men tend to be careless and not bother about her emotional needs. Emotionally malnourished wife is like a live bomb,handle with care.

Women is expected to bear all burden alone,she should solve problems,manage all,making meals,maternal skills even be responsible for everybody mood, they are always open to scrutiny and criticism from family,society and work place. so she is stressed, this stress is mainly resulted in conflicts in love life,family,parenting or intimacy with their partners,effecting their sexuality and sex lives. trhen environmental stress which generated from lack of security,domestic abuse and rape, women in not safe in her own house,within four walls she is always in danger. even our culture is as such women are considered as upholders family name and honor. they are more susceptible to being shamed.Men use a process that is stress destructing,women use a process that is stress absorbent,women succumbs to be a victim which is not healthy,then they do shopping to feel empowered.

Now with higher education and empowerment women has raised their voice against injustice and do as men do. They are courageous and bold enough to handle home and work place together . they sent their children to day boarding schools or hostel to get enough time and become tension free.Now media and consumer economy insisting women to buy more to feel good and they deserve it.But there is always difference between your needs and being shopaholic is too slippery way.reading books or join club or any other recreation will do good job rather than being shopaholic though every woman has her own recipe but optimism is must..

Every thing is in women hand as they are all in all at home.They do their best to keep balance at home and workplace.

BASIC NATURE

Women have patience,intelligence,subtle intuition and she is more hard working compare to men.But she lacks something thatswhy men tend to rule her and she become rebellious.This is the main reason of minor to major rifts occurred in households. Though she is loving and caring and loves to work for her own people,when she smell something foul smell at the bottom-scene change at once.Men suppose to be superior to women as I said before,now women turn the table showed all her skills in every field.Women have proved they are not a point less than men which is hard to digest for men society.

Now women have more freedom and leisure to improve their minds.They have higher levels of intelligence or take part in affairs of first importance,but now she has no time to cook food or handling whole domestic affairs.So imbalance between two sexes is there which resulted in domestic inefficiency while excelling in other fields.Now land of enthroned woman is land of canned soups and ready to eat food.Now there is tendency to throw all responsibilities to professionals from child-rearing to educating either in play-way schools or day-boarding schools to trained the minds of children in every field be it moral education or hygien related or religion related.No tension,throw money and get all.

In brief ,women rebel unconsciously against the dull,mechanical tricks of trade that society compels them to practise for a living,and their rebellion testifies to their intelligence. The inherent tendency of any woman is to evade the whole obligation or reduce its demands to the minimum.Now woman enters marriage institution with
tendency to compete with man and not to carry on obligations which were lately supposed to have.Now most marriages failed within . months or days.Because now she is not ready to be helpless as a feeble lamb.She has authority .Now women is in every profession from teacher to scientist .Now woman is prime minister/President of country.Now only home or kitchen is not her occupation.

Men have forced upon women an artificial character which will conceal their real character,and women have found it profitable to encourage the deception.Though every man think himself a intellectual superior of woman, and particularly of his wife,he constantly gives the lie to his pretension by consulting and deffering to what he calls her intuition.Actually he knows by experience that her judgement is more subtle and accurate which is due to examination of situation ,which is not technical problem but out of the rarer and most fundamental and most difficult problem.But no man would actually want to consult with his wife because of ego problem,never even discuss about marrying off their daughter or about his business.

In 1933 INDIAN OPINION , a weekly newspaper issued. Mahatma Gandhi wrote more than ten million words during his life, translate five hundred words everyday for 50 years. All his writings were released to personal improvement. In 1919 YOUNG INDIA , NAVJEEVAN IN 1933 A HARIJAN weekly. And HINDUSTAN TIMES was inaugurated by Mahatma Gandhi Sep.24 -1924 carrried artical of Moti Lal Nehru, Mohamad Ali Jinah and Jawahar Lal Nehru.

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